Sunday, July 4, 2010

Paranoid Traits

"An abusive relationship is a lethal web of confusion, fear, promises, and hope. The complicated and dangerous process of getting out entails many challenges that people who have never been battered may not consider."


Even though I've been separated from an abusive relationship for several years I often need to reinject myself with a reality check -- re-reading, re-educating myself about personality disorders in order to remind myself AFRESH about the trauma I lived. Perpetrators are experts at making you believe what you believe is a fabrication of your mind. They will approach you as if nothing ever happened between you.

My Reality Check:
Characteristics that match my ex-spouse:
-- is on guard, believing that others are constantly trying to demean, harm, or threaten her. These generally unfounded beliefs, as well as their habits of blame and distrust, might interfere with her ability to form close relationships....
-- Doubt the commitment, loyalty, or trustworthiness of others, believing others are using or deceiving her
- Is reluctant to confide in others or reveal personal information due to a fear that the information will be used against her
- Is unforgiving and hold grudges
- Is hypersensitive and take criticism poorly
- Reads hidden meanings in the innocent remarks or casual looks of others
- Perceives attacks on her character that are not apparent to others; she generally reacts with anger and is quick to retaliate
- Has recurrent suspicions, without reason, that her spouses is unfaithful
- Is generally cold and distant in her relationships with others, and might become controlling and jealous
- Cannot see her role in problems or conflicts, believing she is always right
- Has difficulty relaxing
- Is hostile, stubborn, and argumentative..."
All PD descriptions were provided by

~ Intuitive Feeling


Richard said...

You're not alone. The characteristics match my ex-gf.

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