It's taken me a long time to see the turbulance inside of me -- a state I grew up with and therefore hardly noticed. Like a fish inside water, it has no idea what any other environment looks or feels like. That's how I sometimes feel even today.
I'm reading a challenging book, entitled, "Overcoming Emotional Chaos" and will be sharing insights that the two authors express. The one idea I've grasped so far is that blaming and lashing out only works against oneself. Blaming (even well deserved blame) drains the blamer rather than the blamee. It's important to grow in what promotes healing even when the principles feel foreign and difficult to implement (at first).