Have you ever thought how different people bring out different facets of yourself? Sometimes our thoughts become so consumed with anxiety, helplessness or loneliness. In those moments, it helps to be able to change the cassette and one way I do that is to think about that special significant friend or friends that bring out the best in me. Do you have a clear image of who that person might be? I do and when I think of her I feel at ease, that I don’t have to perform, but just be myself... it’s the best feeling ever!
A friend recently wrote me a letter about what she referred to as her ¨authentic selves¨. Amaka thinks different aspects of her come forth depending on whom she is with, but these aspects are all essentially her. When she is with her Mom for instance it brings out the "mischief" in her but not in a bad way. Her mother loves to laugh and my friend loves to hear it... Her sister, on the other hand, brings out the analyst in my friend. They sit and really talk about this or that person and their characteristics. With her eldest brother it´s the tender side that dominates, cuddly feelings with lots of hugging. I found her comments intriguing because I had received some verses from one of my students basically highlighting the same line of thinking and both of these persons have no connection with each other.
© Troubled Reflector 2007
Isn't it strange some people make
You feel so tired inside,
Your thoughts begin to shrivel up
Like leaves all brown and dried!
But when you're with some other ones,
It's stranger still to find
Your thoughts as thick as fireflies
All shiny in your mind!
Some people talk and talk
and never say a thing.
Some people look at you
and birds begin to sing.
Some people laugh and laugh
and yet you want to cry.
Some people touch your hand
and music fills the sky.